“The problem, simply put, is that we cannot choose everything simultaneously. So we live in danger of becoming paralyzed by indecision, terrified that every choice might be the wrong choice. Equally disquieting are the times when we do make a choice, only to later feel as though we have murdered some aspect of our being by settling on one single concrete decision. By choosing door number three, we fear that we have killed off a different—but equally critical—piece of our soul that could only have been made manifest by walking through door number one or door number two.
In a world of such abundant possibility, many of us simply go limp from indecision. or we derail our life’s journey again and again, backing up to try the doors we neglected on the first round, desperate to get it right this time. Or we become compulsive comparers–always measuring our lives against some other person’s life, secretly wondering if we should have taken her path instead.
All these choices and all this longing can create a weird kind of haunting in our lives—as though the ghosts of all our other, unchosen, possibilities linger forever in a shadow world around us, continuously asking, are you certain that this is what you really wanted?“
– Liz Gilbert, Committed